April 7, 2013
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Heather’s Speech
I said here I didn’t have it and opened a random purse the other day and there it was…so I figured I’d type it out and throw the paper away.
For those of you that don’t know me, which would be the majority – my name is Bethany Sanderson. Heather and I met in college through mutual friends. I’ve never given a wedding speech before but I’m pretty sure I should be addressing Heather but instead I have some advice for Matt. Matt, these are things dangerous to safer things you can say about some specific topics.
About dinner:
Dangerous: What’s for dinner?
Safer: Can I help you with dinner?
Safest: Where would you like to go for dinner?
Ultra Safe: Here, have some wine.About clothes:
Dangerous: Are you wearing that?
Safer: Wow, you sure look good in brown!
Safest: WOW! Look at you!
Ultra Safe: Here, have some wine.About money:
Dangerous: What are you so worked up about?
Safer: Could we be overreacting?
Safest: Here’s my paycheck.
Ultra Safe: Here, have some wine.BUT because I know Heather has taste buds and doesn’t like wine, I thought instead of wine, you could give her a roll of Quilted Northern as your Ultra Safe. I know it sounds unusual but I’ve heard these two go back and forth about which toilet paper is better. A house divided in more than just sports. So Matt, let me spot you some Quilted Norther for your first couple arguments, after that, you’re on your own.
Heather, when you asked me to be your Maid of Honor my first thought was yes but can I get out of the speech. I’m still wondering if I can get out of it? (Pause for laughter……..hopefully..?? haha, that was written) It’s an honor to stand here with you on your wedding day. Over the years I’ve known you, I’ve seen so much growth from when we first met. You aren’t the same Heather I met a couple years ago. Your continued growth and maturity in the Lord, life and relationships has been a blessing to see and be a part of.
I enjoyed getting to know Matt here and there through different things and observe the way he genuinely loves and cares for you. You both are a gift from God to each other. Remember the most important part of love is choosing to love each other. As much as I joke about your future arguments, they will come and sadly Quilted Northern will not be the fix, as great as that would be. Love is a choice and it’s something you have to choose to do every single day.
My prayer for you is that you have a love fueled not by some chemical reaction or simply physical attraction but a love you choose because God loves you. I challenge you both to take the ultimate Sacrifice as an example when you thing of loving each other or when you may not feel like loving. God gave His Son up for us to have the opportunity to call upon His name and be saved. What did we do to deserve that? Absolutely nothing. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. For you and me, and everyone in this room. My question and challenge to you both is what are you willing to give up for the other? A baseball game on tv, lesson planning? Keep God number one in your marriage and then each other. It’s not always going to be an easy road but I’m confident that God brought you two together for His glory.
I look forward to seeing you both continually grow and mature in love for God and each other. Congratulations Mr. and Mrs. Oom!
(Reading that back it sounded a bit dark, it really wasn’t. I just knew they really struggled with loving each other all the time, despite what they were getting. Also, the majority of people were unbelievers in the wedding – hence the emphasis on Him dying for us. That is all.)
